What is this life, anyway? Good question. And now let’s let go, because we’re all trying to understand this thing called life. Life isn’t just another riddle you solve and it’s over. Life is waking up every morning and dealing with it again and again, understanding that life is a journey. A journey that takes a strong heart, because you can’t swim to a new horizon until you have the courage to move away from the shore until it disappears.
Creating reality is mental training so I can receive what I ask for in my life. That’s all. Creating reality isn’t thinking thoughts and hoping they come true. Creating reality is scientifically grounded in the human neurological system, and here too the principle is simple: when you release from your system the resistance, the fears, the perfectionism, the shock, other people’s expectations and whatever else keeps you stuck and sends you around in loops, you make room for a new reality.
The problem is that most of us grew up to be ordinary. I’m not dismissing being ordinary, and it doesn’t mean it isn’t good. But for me, it isn’t enough. Being ordinary means following the conventional path, behaving as expected, doing what your parents told you to do, acting like everyone else, not challenging systems, fulfilling your obligations, and dying. Being exceptional is something else. It’s knowing how to recognize something unique in yourself and bring it into the world. We’re all special. It’s there in everyone!
The thing is, every society is built like a pyramid: most people are at its broad base, and very few are at the top. Simple logic: if you want to realize what makes you unique, look at what everyone is doing and do the opposite. Creating reality isn’t attracting what you want. Creating reality is attracting what you are. “You” means your thoughts. Your speech. Your actions.
Practical tips for creating reality
- Be very clear about what you want.
- Take 5 minutes a day and imagine what you’re asking for.
- Be grateful for it as if it had already happened.
Episode summary
In this episode, Gili and Tal deal with the hard, painful reality all of us are facing, especially at this time. They talk about the difficulty and the pain in the country, and about how we need to come back to ourselves again and again in order to cope with the situation.
Gili talks about how many people go through heartbreak when relationships end, and about the real meaning of the saying “There is nothing more whole than a broken heart.” She explains that real heartbreak comes from understanding that the reality we experience is the result of our own thoughts and actions, and not of other people’s actions.
Tal refers to the Tanya, a classic work of Hasidic teaching, and suggests that each of us set aside an hour a day to deal with feelings of pain and sadness, and then go back to everyday life. She talks about the importance of seeing the beauty in the world and focusing on joy and on the positive sides of life.
Throughout the episode, the two explain the importance of creating reality through thoughts, words and actions. They talk about how you can create a positive reality through imagination and through gratitude for things that have already happened, and they offer practical tips, like imagining what we want and talking about it as if it had already happened.
The episode centers on the understanding that everything in the world is energy, and that we need to work with that energy to create the reality we want. They stress the need to change our thoughts and behavior in order to reach our goals, and to be grateful for the small things in life so that our abundance and happiness grow.
Episode transcript
The episode is in Hebrew. This is a translation of its transcript.
Episode 55. Good morning, Gili. What’s new?
Hi, Tal, what’s up?
Good. I missed it a little.
The routine.
I missed the routine too, but I don’t know, like, this week, this whole period, it’s so heavy that time feels much longer.
Yes, it’s interesting. There’s reality, and how do they put it? Reality, like the truth, hurts.
Reality is very painful right now, yes?
And it goes on, and it’s long, and you have to… It isn’t short, where you can jump out of it quickly.
It’s long. It’s long-distance swimming.
This isn’t something that ends quickly.
It’s no sprint.
So there’s a marathon here, and this marathon is grueling. But look, there is so much pain and sadness in the country.
It’s very hard to hold, and we have to keep bringing ourselves back to the same point, and it’s hard to bring ourselves back to that same point.
For example, in my practice, lots of people are dealing with matters of the heart, with relationships
that end, or women who express regret, or ugly divorces, or the broken hearts club, as they say.
In short, heavy.
Heavy. But one of the things, one of the sayings I came back to a lot this past week, was the one we love so much: “There is nothing more whole than a broken heart.” And I realized that people don’t really understand it.
I mean, the real meaning of saying “there is nothing more whole than a broken heart” is when you look at a reality that isn’t good for you, and your heart breaks
because you know and understand that you created this reality. Not because someone hurt you,
cheated on you, left you, but because it’s a product of you, of you. And that’s the real heartbreak.
Being in a place where I understand that everything that takes shape for me
in reality is actually a product of me, of my thoughts, the wrong ones. People go through entire processes.
I work with people in the final stretch of divorce who have brought in armies of lawyers, disputes on every front, and suddenly the heart…
But that isn’t what… at all.
And we’re all at war here.
So you know what, like, come on, you’ve already teed it up for me, so let’s carry on and talk nicely, Taltal.
I really love that you tee it up for me, and I’ll start with a little speech, just a bit.
You know.
It isn’t that I’m free of sadness.
I think all of us, in all of us, there’s a certain amount of basic sadness, let’s call it that, and there are periods when that sadness rises and swells, and that’s how it comes out.
I prefer to focus more on the beautiful side of things,
the joy of life. But I’ll give a tip for it. I think we said it once already, but if not, then here it is: the Tanya. It’s my Urim and Thummim, my guide in my practice and in life.
Of course, who am I to say?
Who am I at all?
But he explains it there very beautifully. He says: don’t deny the feelings you have. And if there’s sadness in you, then fine, set aside an hour a day, between 12 and 1
in the afternoon, when I sit and cry and let go and release the pain and the sadness, and then I go back to life.
I mean, you need to put a boundary around it, because, you know, a lot of times, a lot of times I…
Have you ever even opened your eyes to see how beautiful the world is?
The world actually is beautiful, because maybe we can simply let go for a moment, let go for a second. The world
is what we see, what we make of it. Whatever we focus on is what appears beautiful to us.
So if we feel like crap inside, the world looks very ugly.
Right?
So come, come, let’s talk about this for a moment, because what I wanted to say is exactly a continuation of what you said. Like, the thing is, you can just let go for a second and come to understand that we’re all trying to understand the same thing called life.
This thing called life.
And if you try to ignore your sadness, it’ll leak out anyway.
I mean, I was there. I think we’ve all been there.
There’s no point fighting it. At the core of each of us, there’s a little winner waiting to wake up and be released into the world.
So we have to stop convincing ourselves that we’re not good enough.
Life isn’t some riddle you solve and it’s over.
It’s waking up every morning and dealing with it again and again and again and again. You can’t swim toward a new horizon until you have the courage to leave the shore far enough behind that it disappears from view.
I mean, life’s challenges are our stepping stones to growth.
The beauty is in the journey itself.
So what actually is creating reality?
Let’s talk about it for a moment, because it’s exactly what you said a moment ago. Let’s understand creating reality.
It’s mental training so that you can receive what you want.
That’s all.
Okay. It’s one of the tools that all the most successful people in life use, and it isn’t child’s play. It’s a game for all of us.
I mean, creating reality isn’t thinking thoughts and then hoping they come true.
No, no, no. It’s seeing it, feeling it,
and knowing that you are already there, grateful as though it has already happened.
There are lots of ways. You’ve taught quite a few here on the podcast too.
Right?
Look, creating reality is scientifically based.
Today they’re actually grounding it scientifically in the human neurological system.
The moment a person releases from his system the resistance and the fears,
the perfectionism, other people’s expectations,
everything that’s keeping you stuck right now in this place and sending you around in circles. It’s actually a circle of frustration that brings you back, every time, to the same state.
I mean, you need to change your thinking,
your behavior, and it’s mental. Now you need to understand,
to remove all doubt, that creating reality isn’t attracting what you want.
Creating reality is the awareness and understanding that you attract to yourself what you are.
I mean, what I am is what I’ll attract now.
What’s the problem? That most of us grew up and were raised to be ordinary, to be ordinary. Now, I’m not dismissing being ordinary. It also
doesn’t mean it isn’t good. But for me, as Gili, it isn’t good enough. I mean, going…
Being ordinary means following the conventional path, doing what’s expected of me, like everyone else, doing what your parents told you that you have to do: to honor them, maybe even to behave with humility, to be a good citizen, to pay your taxes, and then to die. Now, being exceptional is something else.
It’s knowing how to recognize something unique in yourself and give it expression.
Now.
Here’s the news: we’re all special, we’re all special.
It’s there in every one of us.
Now look at it: every society is built like a pyramid, okay?
The pyramid has a wide base, and that is where most people are. And the higher you go, up to the tip, there are very, very few. So, with a very simple, logical understanding: you see everyone doing something?
You need to do exactly the opposite, exactly the opposite, and not be like everyone else, because that’s the ordinary, normal way
everyone operates. Now.
Let’s each of us look for a moment, wherever you’re sitting, wherever you’re listening, no matter where you are. Look around you.
Everything there started with a thought, with someone’s thought: the chair, the lamp,
the garden, the car, whatever.
Everything started with someone’s thought. So if you want to create magic in your life?
Think… no.
You simply need to do
reverse engineering. We said we have three tools: thought, speech and action.
Everything you see in reality began as a thought, became words, and then became action.
Okay. I mean, if you reverse it, if you do reverse engineering and start from the end, you can go backward.
I mean, the simplest example: I want to be rich.
I want to live in financial abundance.
Fine, so go take…
You have only 50 shekels in your wallet? Take the fifty shekels, go to some store, break the 50 shekels into coins, look for someone in need on the street. You’ll certainly find someone who has less than you. Give them those coins, and there you go, you already feel wealthy, you already feel like a millionaire. In the system… I mean, you’ve both helped people and trained your system
to feel the thing itself, that you’re someone who gives. So really, the rules are very simple.
One: first of all, be very clear
about what you want.
The desire has to be completely clear. I mean, there has to be clarity and precision about what I’m asking for.
No vagueness, not close, not almost, but exactly that. The second thing
is simply to take 5 minutes a day, 5 minutes a day, to sit and imagine the thing.
What does “imagine the thing” mean? To see the thing as if it’s already…
Just imagine it, as simply as a child would.
The third thing is to be grateful for the thing as if it has already happened.
Now, we talk about this a lot.
Let’s understand: there’s lots of research on it, and you can look it up. Search and you’ll find it.
When you feel gratitude, your heart beats at a different rhythm. Research says that genuinely feeling grateful as though it has already happened improves blood flow; it is a physiological change. So
you feel full, and then the energy flows differently, and your whole being flows differently. It’s a different consciousness.
It’s a different level of consciousness.
It’s very different from my blood flow when I’m in frustration, in resistance, in impatience. And there’s research showing even that blood flow from the heart to the brain works better when a person is in a state of mind of gratitude.
Now, that’s the basis. That’s the basis, first of all: seeing it, feeling it really, in the body.
See it happening. What does it look like when it happens?
How does it smell?
Is there a taste?
Let’s taste it.
You can take the example.
Someone who uses this a lot is Einat [full name unclear in the Hebrew transcript]. She gives a very nice example. She tells about a child who really, really, really wants some candy.
He calls his father, and his father is at work and doesn’t answer him. And the child sits there at home, imagining the candy, its colors and its taste, and he’s drooling. [The next phrase is unclear in the Hebrew transcript.] And his father doesn’t answer. When his father comes home from work, he brings the child candy, even though they never spoke.
He creates the reality in his being, in his state of being, as if he’d already gotten it, and that’s what happens.
Basically, it’s that you shift your brain from a state of fear to a state of faith (emunah). And when you shift your brain from a state of fear to a state of faith,
that’s the way out of frustration.
It’s against all odds.
It’s the step to meeting life’s challenges.
It’s the step to making real changes in your life, because everything here is energy. And you don’t need to be the genius of the generation, and you don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Einstein gave us his most famous formula years ago.
He converted energy into matter.
I mean, today they’re already proving through research that everything here is energy.
So if everything here is energy, I need to learn how to work with it. How do I create reality?
I feel it in my
imagination. I experience it in imagination. To my subconscious,
to my brain,
there’s no energetic distinction between imagination and reality.
I’ve already done it. Now, to all those who tut and say, no, but it’s a process, and it’s slow…
Love, it’s slow because you believe it has to be slow.
It takes a long process because your belief here
is that it’ll take a long process. But we have to understand the powers we have in us, and if we don’t embrace our powers, we’re led around here no differently from animals: there’s an event and I react to it, and then an event comes again and I think and I react.
And then an event comes again and I react to it, and then that’s the reality I
experience. Terribly exhausting.
And then that’s also what I believe in, and people don’t understand.
People don’t understand how powerful they are. They don’t understand what power is in them, because we have to understand that our real challenge here in life
isn’t really finding a good job, making a living, building a home or even finding our soulmate.
Fine, it’s all blessed and it’s all for the good.
But a person’s purpose is to know how to use his powers,
and to know how to use this thing called the self, and to know how to use the higher powers that descend from above for our benefit. Today, science is already working in our favor.
Today science works for us.
Today we understand that nothing here is material. Everything is energy; everything vibrates. And if we understand that we’re working with an energetic field, then let’s use our energy by the rules of the game.
Here they say everything is energy, so I’ll dive into this thing called energy. And we all know the difference between walking, running, bringing, doing… [unclear in the Hebrew transcript] …imagining the thing, and it happens.
Now.
There isn’t a person this hasn’t happened to at least once, okay?
Of course. I’m just thinking, I have dozens.
[The next words are unclear in the Hebrew transcript.] We’ll always
come back
to that very over-the-top example people give:
like, think about how you reach orgasm. Break down, in minute detail, the way you reach orgasm, and you’ll understand very well how reality is created. And reality is a product of us, of all of us.
So you’ll say there’s a very hard, very sad situation here.
And very depressing, here, and it’s all true, and it’s all true.
But my practical suggestion is to put a time limit on it, so that you don’t sink into that place. And in order to create a magnificent, different or larger reality, you have to act a little outside the norm.
Not to be like everyone, not to act like everyone, but to dare, even in your own head.
People aren’t even willing to imagine, to hold a picture in their heads, because all those hurdles come up for them straight away.
“But no, it’s not possible. But no, it’s not reality.”
Who cares?
Who cares? You?
Afterward you see all kinds of figures on TV, or on all kinds of channels,
one platform or another, and you say, wow, how did he do that?
How did he do that?
He did it because he imagined it, and he thought about it.
How do I create reality?
Let’s take the simplest example.
Fine, say I want to go to some party. First I’ll think, “I want to go to a party.”
Right. I’ll think about it, and then I’ll call you and tell you, Taltal, I’m going to such-and-such party, and then I’ll translate it
into action: I’ll get there.
That’s all it is. That’s life. That’s creating reality, beautiful souls. It’s not that complicated. So we’re telling you again: there’s thought, there’s speech, and there’s action.
Those are the right paths to follow.
If you want to do reverse engineering, and you can do reverse engineering, move straight to action: act it out and be there already.
Now.
I’ve already talked this to death, but I speak with such confidence about this because I experienced it in the most critical way possible, even a cruel one.
I mean, go stand over the bed of your son, eight and a half years old, sedated and on a ventilator.
They tell you the child won’t make it through the night, and you enter another reality.
One in which none of that is happening, and I don’t care about your scans, and I don’t care about your readings. And it’s possible, and it’s the power of all of us. And this transformation is something that’s needed now, because the energy is heavy, heavy, heavy, so that we can rise above it and create a new reality.
It’s darkest before the dawn.
And also, listen, what is there to lose here? Because we’ve already created the crap.
Honestly, so?
Why not try something else, just for a second?
And maybe, maybe, maybe it’ll be good?
Right. So the practical tips are mainly these: have you set yourselves some goal?
A dream, a vision? Flesh it out.
I mean, imagine it in your head, break it down into the tiniest details.
Start talking about it, even to yourselves. Spend five minutes a day
inhabiting the feeling that it has already happened.
And act accordingly, act accordingly.
Think about how you feel.
I think that, in the end, the connection to emotion is what creates the vision.
Right. That’s what I did, without even being aware of it, at the hospital. I mean, how is a woman in my situation, standing here in the hospital, supposed to behave? A certain way: to connect to pain, to connect to sadness, to mourning and to loss.
I was somewhere else.
I connected to joy, to health, to wholeness, to miracles, and that’s what happened.
So you’ll say reality is hard.
That’s true. But we’re telling you here: be grateful even for the smallest thing you have, because nothing is a given. And the moment you’re grateful, even for that small, small, small, small thing,
it will grow, and grow, and grow, and grow. And start working on yourselves, by yourselves, and saying to yourselves the things you want, again, with respect, with respect.
I have no business dwelling on poverty
if I want to be in financial abundance. I have no business dwelling on infertility
if what I want is
fertility. I have no business dwelling on sadness and mourning and loss
if I want to be in joy. Maybe it sounds humane to immerse yourself in poverty, sadness and illness, to study and understand them. But, beautiful souls, it doesn’t help you one damn bit.
So if you want to be empathetic and identify with someone, set aside an hour, says the Baal HaTanya, the author of the Tanya. An hour, and move on. Love, you’ve done your part, move on.
We’ve already given.
So your real contribution to yourself,
to your surroundings, to your country, to this whole planet, is that you’ll be in a positive, good energy. And that’s our work, and that’s what we’re calling on you to do. So be grateful, even if it’s for the smallest thing you have.
We’ve put a sweet song here for you at the end, so you can flow into this thought of gratitude, into the sweetness of knowing that Divine providence is at work here, that everything here is for the good.
[Unclear in the Hebrew transcript.]
Exactly. And tomorrow the sun will rise again.
There’s nothing new under the sun. Everything here goes around in circles, circles. Sending love to each of you, beautiful souls. Good news.
[The song plays.]