Episode 21 · August 17, 2023
The Truth Hurts · Episode 21 · audio in Hebrew
You're waiting for the moment you'll know for certain that this is right, that he's the one, that this decision is safe and there's no way to get it wrong. That moment never comes, and it's not because there's something wrong with you. The way Gili sees it, certainty isn't sitting somewhere waiting for you to find it. It gets created the second you decide, the same way Spider-Man gets his powers only after he already believes in them. The question isn't how to find confidence. It's how to create it.
Life doesn't come with certainty built in. It gets created the moment you decide, not before.
Certainty isn't created by past successes or past failures. It comes from a clear inner decision you make in the present.
Every crossroads in life is a chance to learn, not a mistake. Even a choice that went badly teaches you to turn a different way next time.
We inherit the fear of uncertainty from our parents. If they were anxious and hesitant, it's stamped into us almost automatically.
Give up control and let yourself get lost, exactly like the saying from Paris: "getting lost in Paris is priceless."
No. Certainty doesn't arrive because you've done something like this before or because it worked out for you last time. It's created out of a clear inner decision in the present, when you know that you know because you decided, and not because you have a guarantee or some earlier experience backing it up.
Perfectionism is inner uncertainty showing itself. When someone calls themselves a perfectionist, the basic belief driving them is that they aren't good enough. That's what keeps them stuck, because as long as you're chasing perfection as your way of feeling secure, you don't move forward.
Because that's how you shrink yourself and make peace with a situation you don't want. You stay stuck in the wrong place without noticing, until one day you wake up and ask whose life this even is.
Yes, and it shows up in the body itself. When you speak only out of hope, your energy is low, you move differently, and your confidence is audible in your voice and visible in the way you stand. Speaking out of knowing, with a clear intention, changes even the way the blood flows through your body.
In this episode Gili and Tal talk about something that's on most of our minds quite a lot of the time!
Have you ever heard the line "the only certain thing is death"?
So if certainty equals death, why the hell are we constantly hunting for certainty everywhere in our lives: at work, with our partners, in our families, in every kind of relationship there is...
And all of it because we were taught that you need certainty in life.
Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.
The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.
In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.
We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.
You don’t need any prior knowledge. You only need the desire to explore a wide range of ideas and discover practical guidance for living.
Gili Man Wolner, Emotional Healer. Helping you heal and grow through Jewish wisdom.
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