Use Your Influence for Good

Episode 16 · July 6, 2023

Thought and creating reality

The Truth Hurts · Episode 16 · audio in Hebrew

The conversation

You act out of habit, out of an old pattern that doesn't really serve you anymore, and only afterward do you notice that's what happened. Gili distinguishes between action that comes out of memory and constraints from the past, and action that comes out of real inspiration and is open to new things. The way she sees it, a broken heart is an inner clearing process that leads to insight, not a sign that something has ended, and that's also where the name The Truth Hurts comes from. Toward the end she gives a few practical tools: how to judge people favorably, how to stay out of gossip, and how to give other people exactly what you're missing yourself.

The truth

  • The difference between acting out of memory, repeating patterns from the past like a hamster on a wheel, and acting out of inspiration, staying open to ideas that are new and unplanned.

  • In the episode Gili says the name of the podcast wasn't picked at random: the truth hurts, but that's exactly the point where real change begins.

  • The inspiration for the name comes from the saying there is nothing more whole than a broken heart, attributed to Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Kotzk.

  • The episode distinguishes between action that comes out of inspiration and action that comes out of constraint.

  • A practical tip Gili gives: judge people favorably, remember that we fall too, and don't take part in gossip.

  • Gili also touches on the fear of having a bad influence, and she says that inner shifts shape outer results in life.


Questions and answers

Why is the podcast called The Truth Hurts?

Gili explains that the name was chosen along the lines of the saying there is nothing more whole than a broken heart. Just as a broken heart is a whole heart, because it carries a deep insight, the painful truth is the point where you can start to change and to heal. It isn't a goal in itself. People ask her about it over and over, but the answer is simple: the truth hurts only because it exposes what needs fixing.

What's the difference between acting out of memory and acting out of inspiration?

Acting out of memory is using past experience and repeating the same old patterns and thoughts, like a hamster on a wheel that only goes around and never really develops. Acting out of inspiration is letting new and unplanned ideas reach you, being a kind of receiver that picks up new things instead of planning and replaying what you already know.

Why is a broken heart considered a good thing?

A broken heart is a sign that the person has come to a real insight, that they understand how much suffering they caused themselves out of toxic thoughts and old patterns, and not only pain over a loss on the outside. It's a vessel that expresses real regret, and with every tear shed out of that kind of understanding an opening is made in a higher Source, so that the breaking is exactly what leads to healing.

What responsibility comes with fame and influence?

Anyone who gets fame has to understand that it never just arrives. It comes with the responsibility to pass on a message, because the universe is making use of that person to deliver something to the world. Plenty of people lose their way and take the fame and the light for themselves.

How can we judge people who annoy us favorably?

You have to remember that nobody is in the same life circumstances and nobody faces the same tests, and that this person was chosen to be a messenger showing you something about yourself. It's worth remembering that we fall too, and that usually whatever annoys you in someone else is something that exists in you as well.

Gili's original episode description

Have you ever felt stuck in place?

Uninspired?

Or maybe you're actually afraid of your own power to influence?

Gili and Tal go deep into the subject of inspiration and influence.

How do you act out of inspiration instead of out of constraints?

How does a person become influential?

How do we use our power to influence for good instead of being afraid of the harm that power could do?

In this episode you'll find answers to these questions and more…

About the podcast

Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.

The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.

In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.

We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.

Is this podcast for you?

  • You want to hear the truth, and you’re ready to face it. (Yes, those are two different things.)
  • You want to gain insight and improve your quality of life.
  • You want to make a change.
  • You want a deeper understanding of the laws of the universe.
  • You want to live a healthy life in body and soul.
  • You want to take away something you can carry with you for life.

You don’t need any prior knowledge. You only need the desire to explore a wide range of ideas and discover practical guidance for living.

Listen and get in touch

Gili Man Wolner, Emotional Healer. Helping you heal and grow through Jewish wisdom.

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