Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: The Truth Hurts, Episode 68

Why you keep waiting for the world to change so that you'll feel different

Episode 68 · August 1, 2024

Self-worth and self-loveChange, feeling stuck and procrastination

The Truth Hurts · Episode 68 · audio in Hebrew

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The conversation

You're angry at someone, frustrated by a situation, certain the problem is out there. The way Gili sees it, the truth is exactly the opposite. There is nothing out there. Everything is projected from within, and every reality you meet is your responsibility. Understanding why doesn't take years on a couch. It's enough to look at what is already happening in your life in a different way. The question isn't who is to blame. It's what this says about you.

The truth

  • The body is a costume for a role, not who you are. In Kabbalah it's called levushim (garments), and it's what we play our part through in the movie of life.

  • In the Hebrew word emet (truth), the letters aleph, mem and tav are spread across the whole alphabet, which stands for breadth and for seeing the big picture. In sheker (falsehood), the letters shin and kuf sit right next to each other, meaning there is nowhere to move, and anyone busy justifying themselves is inside the falsehood.

  • We're not only actors in our own story. We're also its producers, its directors and its screenwriters. And the script is being written as we go, so it can be changed at any given moment.

  • Everything, solid objects included, is built out of energy, and our real power is the ability to shape reality, both personally and collectively, as long as we don't harm another person or take away their right to choose.

  • According to the Baal Shem Tov's teaching of mirrors, which she studied at Alma College, there is nothing outside. Everything is projected from within the person, and every reality they run into is their responsibility alone.

  • In the method she offers, you don't need years on a couch or a psychological profile. It's enough to look at the events of your life differently than you have looked at them until now.

Questions and answers

I heard that the Baal Shem Tov said every person I meet is showing me something about myself. What exactly is that about?

Gili describes herself as connected to the Baal Shem Tov's teaching of mirrors, and in her words its core is that there is nothing outside, everything is projected from within the person. Every reality a person is exposed to is their responsibility, so if they want to change it, they have to change something inside themselves.

What does it even mean to really heal? Because I feel like I'm always waiting for something out there to change so that something in here will finally feel different.

In the episode Gili describes real healing as something other than bringing out the best version of yourself, like turning into Wonder Woman or Superman. That only makes the anxiety worse. Real healing is giving love and acceptance to all the parts of us, especially the less attractive parts, the ones we're ashamed of.

What is the "mitzvah of onah" that Gili mentions at the end?

According to what is said in the episode, the mitzvah of onah is a commandment that every man signs on to in the ketubah (the Jewish marriage contract), and it obligates him to give his wife pleasure, while there is no parallel commandment obligating the woman toward the man. In her words, that shows the Sages recognized that a woman has a strong sexual desire.

What are the four sentences in the cleansing process she teaches?

The method comes from Ho'oponopono and is made up of four sentences that are said once you've clarified the event. "I'm sorry" is taking responsibility. "Forgive me" is regret for what I thought about myself. "Thank you" is appreciation for the lesson. "I love you" completes the process with the energy of love, which is the greatest healing force there is.

Gili's original episode description

Years ago there lived a remarkable man. The Baal Shem Tov, they called him.

Long before anyone invented the technology and all the New Age methods of soul healing, he brought us the teaching of mirrors.

Put simply, what he said is that there is nothing outside. Everything is projected from within the person, and every reality a person is exposed to is their responsibility, so if they want to change it, they have to change something inside themselves. In other words, reality is a projection of the subconscious, and if I want to change something in the physical world, I have to cleanse my own subconscious.

The Baal Shem Tov gave us one of the most powerful things a person can have: the ability to gain control over reality.

And at the same time, the responsibility is ours!

This is an episode my listeners asked for. Come and learn about the work of cleansing yourself.