The Heroes Humanity Needs

Episode 67 · July 25, 2024

Personal fulfillment and finding your calling

The Truth Hurts · Episode 67 · audio in Hebrew

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The conversation

The same fight again, the same disappointment again, just with a different person. According to Gili, that is exactly what karma means: being stuck in a cycle that keeps repeating itself. The way out isn't to fight harder. It's to stop acting out of fear, and to remember that you can't be everything for everyone. The real lessons come from the boundaries you set for yourself, not from pleasing everyone around you.

The truth

  • Being stuck in a cycle of drama and struggle is exactly what karma is. The answer is to break out of the wheel, not to fight it harder.

  • Nothing happens for no reason. Every person who comes into your life is a lesson, and sometimes you'll understand what they meant only through pain, or you'll never understand it at all, and that's all right too.

  • To receive, you first have to release control, fear, and your grip on people and situations. You have to clear some space.

  • You can't be everything for everyone. Your job is to learn your own part, not somebody else's part.

  • Real happiness doesn't come from satisfying every urge but from restraint. It's exactly like food: without a limit, even the greatest pleasure turns into a stomachache.

  • The way you speak to yourself makes a difference. When you treat yourself with respect and with good intentions, your brain and your body simply respond in kind.

Questions and answers

Why do I feel like I have to live the way other people expect me to, and how do I get out of that?

Because it costs you dearly. It drains your energy and damages your authenticity, and in the end it doesn't even help. Whether you do exactly what is expected of you or not, people will always have something to say, so it's better to put that energy into finding what really lights you up rather than into what other people want from you.

What is that experiment with the hotel housekeepers, and what does it say about the way I talk to myself?

In the example given in the episode, the housekeepers in the study were split into two groups. One group was told that their work at the hotel was the physical exercise they needed, and the second group carried on as usual with no explanation. A few months later, changes in the physical measurements showed up only in the group that got the explanation, which shows how much our intention and our perception affect the results we get in life.

Why is it that when I'm sad or afraid and I just try to push it down, it comes back at me later even stronger?

You can't be selective about emotions. If you suppress one feeling, you suppress all of them, joy included. Gili says the problem isn't the feeling itself but the resistance to it. The way she sees it, the answer is accepting all of your emotions, because it's acceptance, not resistance or suppression, that leads to the peace of mind you're looking for.

What is the difference between "I have to" and "I want to", according to the episode?

Saying "I have to" signals a victim consciousness, as though you have no choice. Saying "I want to" signals choice and strength. It's an active choice rather than victimhood, and it tells our subconscious that we are the ones leading, which brings events to us accordingly.

Gili's original episode description

Some people call it the shift into the fifth dimension. Others call it the birth pangs of the Messiah (chevlei Mashiach). It doesn't really matter what you call it. What matters is the intention, and the intention is that we put our consciousness to use.

At the highest level we're meant to be observers. The soul comes here to watch, the way an audience watches a movie.

The problem is that we fall into the movie. We fall into the drama, we struggle, we fight, we survive, stuck inside a cycle that keeps repeating itself, and that is basically what we call karma.

Karma is a wheel that has to be broken. You have to get out of it, so we stop going around in circles.

The problem is that we act out of fear, and as long as we do, it will never end. We can't heal ourselves in the same way we were hurt.

Humanity can't keep going down a path of struggle and pointless wars. Technological progress is picking up speed, and it's supposed to help us do what we came here to do, not for us to use it to wipe ourselves out.

Humanity needs leaders. It needs you! Nobody was created for no reason, because nothing is created for no reason.

Find your passion, that thing you're good at, your gift, and serve humanity with it.