My God | Healing through Jewish Wisdom

The conversation

You're waiting for something on the outside to finally make you feel good: a job, a relationship, some recognition. Then it happens, and you're still not there. The way Gili sees it, that feeling depends on inner work and on self-examination that nobody can do for you, and never on whatever is going on around you. She brings up King Solomon, who was offered wealth and honor, chose wisdom instead, and received all the rest on top of it. And when things are especially hard, the way they are now, the answer is to draw strength and keep the habits that hold you up, not to give up.

The truth

The feeling we're looking for, calm, security, happiness, can't depend on anything external. Love that depends on something ends when that thing ends.

Desire is the beginning of Creation and it's important to have ambitions, but the feeling we're chasing isn't in the achievement itself. It's in inner work.

Everything here is energy, matter included, and we're all shards of the same Source. What we broadcast in thought and in feeling is what comes back to us as reality.

Each of us is also part of somebody else's healing, knowingly or not, and sometimes we're the ones who stir up the anger or the conflict.

The way she sees it, personal responsibility is the ability to respond (responsibility as response plus ability), and it's the only part that's genuinely in our hands.

Even in the most frustrating moment there's a timing and a purpose, though it isn't always revealed to us right then.

Questions and answers

Why is it so hard for me to leave this place even though I feel like it's draining everything out of me?

In the episode, everything is energy and we're all part of the same Source. So what we broadcast outward in our thoughts, our feelings and our behavior is what we experience as reality, including wounds and traumas from the past, until we heal them. That's why it's important to understand that we create our own reality.

I stay in a place that empties me out and I can't get myself to leave. What can the story of King Solomon teach me about that?

When God offered King Solomon money, honor and fame, he chose wisdom instead, a listening heart, so that he could judge the people and tell good from evil. As a result Solomon also received happiness, honor and long life on top of it.

What's the difference between someone who always blames other people and someone who never blames anyone?

It's a scale for checking where each of us stands in their own process. Someone who blames other people still has a long way to go. Someone who blames themselves is already halfway there. And someone who blames nobody has arrived.

What's the most important habit for keeping my energy high?

In the episode, the most meaningful habit for keeping your energy high is to stand behind your word, to do what you committed to for yourself, not for other people. It matters more than trends like getting up with the sunrise or meditating. It's an act of self-love, of self-appreciation and of self-respect.

Gili's original episode description

God is everything. He's so powerful that He doesn't even need you to know that He's everything. It's our choice whether to believe it or not. Look into it, ask questions, check it out, and if after all that you say there's no God, then fair enough.

My relationship with the Creator is a pursuit of wisdom and truth. I don't doubt His existence. To me it's as clear as day that the world has a Creator. Don't take this as me proposing a model for how to live. I'm certainly not preaching religion. All I'm doing is sharing my own experience of life, the one that's right for me and not necessarily right for you, which is why I don't claim to be a model for anything at all. I believe in authenticity, in letting the feeling exist. That's it. It isn't perfect, it isn't always graceful, but it's me, and I'm in a constant search for who I really am. That's what I do in my practice. It's what I teach, and it's how I live.

A negative view of reality is always a partial view, an incomplete one, and a wrong one. Being angry at the Creator without remembering that He's the one who gave me everything is a failure to understand reality. He gave first! He gave you a body, a mind, a home, a car, a partner, whatever it is. What matters is that He gave it to you first, and that's a different point of view. Reality is always whatever you choose to see.