Passover Cleaning, Inside and Out

Episode 3 · April 3, 2023

Jewish holidays

The Truth Hurts · Episode 3 · audio in Hebrew

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The conversation

You react to everything that happens to you, but who decides how you'll react? The way Gili sees it, the event itself is completely neutral. Your reaction is the thing that exposes what's buried inside you. And it doesn't stop there. She shows how three months in a row, from Shvat through Passover, push you forward one step at a time: breaking down your self-image, then focusing on what you do have, and finally a real freedom that doesn't need to escape anywhere.

The truth

  • Every event in life is neutral and out of our control. What is in our control is our reaction, and it's exactly that reaction that exposes what's sitting in the subconscious.

  • In the episode Gili says that in the month of Shvat the seed for the whole year is planted, and the universe tends to send you chances to break your self-image, because the energy you spend protecting your ego could be going toward something more real.

  • "When Adar comes in, we increase our joy" doesn't mean the month is joyful by nature. It lights up what we're missing, personally and as a people, so that we learn to focus on what is already here.

  • Gili shares that cleaning before Passover is an opportunity for her to clear something on the inside and not just to put the house in order, a feeling she says you can sense with every spritz of cleaner.

  • As she presents it, real freedom is not the same thing as a vacation. A vacation is usually an escape, while inner freedom comes from giving yourself over to something, and what it actually looks like is sitting quietly at home, not looking for anything outside.

  • The COVID period taught Gili exactly that, whether she wanted it or not: sitting at home with no choice, and finding that there was something good in it.

Questions and answers

What's the difference between a vacation and inner freedom?

A vacation is usually an escape and not real freedom. Real inner freedom is a feeling that comes from the inside, and you reach it by giving yourself over to something rather than running away from it. Staying home, for example, and using the inner resources it has.

What is it about the month of Adar that makes me react this way, if anything?

Adar doesn't bring joy or sadness in itself. What it does do is put a spotlight on what we're missing in our lives, as individuals and as a people. The mitzvah (commandment) is to focus instead on what is here and what is working, and to draw from that joy the strength to get past what is missing.

What did Gili find out about herself after what happened at the coffee shop during COVID?

When somebody cut ahead of her in line and she felt angry, Gili ran an inner clearing process and found that there is still a little girl inside her who feels she's being disrespected, because as a child she learned that she needed respect from the outside to feel respected.

Why does the episode say it matters not to skip the part where you connect to the feeling during the clearing process?

Our permission to feel gets shut down in childhood, when a crying child is brushed aside and nobody makes room for the pain. If you don't connect to the feeling and jump straight to the clearing, the feeling stays unresolved and just builds up deeper.

What's the first step to take when you begin a clearing process?

Before any technique (Ho'oponopono, the Crystal Eye method and the others), the foundation is taking responsibility for what's happening in your life, understanding that the reality is mine and comes out of me, because without that you can't get rid of that reality or change it.

Gili's original episode description

In the third episode of the podcast, Gili Man Wolner and Tal Eckerling continue the session on the couch, this time in a Passover mood.

Where do outer cleaning and inner clearing meet? They lay out the idea of clearing out toxins, the way it shows up in a lot of teachings, and how they understand it themselves.

They get into the link between self-image and the self, the paradox of freedom, taking responsibility, and the way our choices affect us and affect our reality.

And they take one more step on the road to Bioutopia.

About the podcast

Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.

The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.

In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.

We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.

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