"Justice, Justice Shall You Pursue." Really?

Why being right doesn't free you from the anger

Episode 49 · March 7, 2024

Guilt and shame

The Truth Hurts · Episode 49 · audio in Hebrew

The conversation

Someone hurt you, and you're a hundred percent sure you're in the right. So why doesn't that help you feel free? The anger stays stuck, and sometimes it doesn't stay only in your head. Gili says it finds a way into the body too. When justice and unity collide, unity is the choice that's worth more.

The truth

  • Anger is almost always born out of a sense of injustice, the feeling that somebody took something from you and it has to be given back.

  • You can be completely in the right and still stay stuck. Being right doesn't always set you free.

  • Unity stands above justice when the two collide. That's the choice she offers.

  • Holding on to anger and resentment can affect physical health too, not only emotional health.

  • According to a Hasidic story Gili tells, there are accounts and past lives we don't see, and that calls for some caution before we rule on who is right.

  • The practical advice Gili offers: look forward instead of getting stuck looking back, like Lot's wife.


Questions and answers

What is the connection between anger and justice?

Anger is intimately tied to each person's own sense of justice. When you feel that an injustice was done to you, a need rises up to get something back or to put something right, and that's what sets the anger off.

What did the healer tell Gili to do with her anger, even when she was right?

The healer told her to let it go completely and not to fight over who was right: not to process it and not to try to repair the relationship with the other person, but simply to release it and stop fighting.

How did the ongoing anger affect Gili's physical health?

She came down with bacterial pneumonia seven times, to the point that a doctor told her he had never seen anyone survive five bouts like that, and she described it as a constant feeling of having no air.

What did the Hasidic story about the Baal Shem Tov teach about understanding justice?

The story of the two men and the judge teaches that we can't really understand what is just, because we don't see the whole picture, including accounts carried over from previous lives, as in the case where the judge himself was punished for ruling wrongly.

What is the method Gili uses to connect to the Creator and raise her vibration?

She imagines that every song she hears is dedicated to her personally by the Creator, as though He were singing to her, and that gives her a sense of closeness, of love and of intimacy that raises her energy.

Gili's original episode description

Justice warriors? This episode is for you.

This time Gili and Tal take up the idea of justice and how it shapes the way we experience injustice and anger.

They talk about the insight that chasing justice can be a powerful motivator, but can also lead to a feeling of disconnection and a loss of unity.

Looking deeper, they find that the search for justice often rests on root beliefs that need re-examining, to find real freedom and release from the "I'm right" that feels the most obvious and yet limits us.

About the podcast

Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.

The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.

In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.

We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.

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