Everything in the universe either grows, develops or dies. An important part of personal development, maybe the main part, is healing the wounds of our past. We won't be able to move forward, to rise, to identify with our soul, as long as we're in the loop of our old wounds. The story is the same for all of us. All of us have a childhood story, whether we remember it or not, whether it was dramatic or a relatively small event, but every one of us has an event, even several traumatic events, that got engraved as traumas and turned into limiting beliefs that quietly, without anyone noticing, run our lives. Our identity is made of our strongest beliefs.
From a young age we learn to hide our feelings so that we won't be vulnerable. All of us had some event of injustice that shook us. That's the stage when we're still innocent, so usually we look to our parents for protection. The problem is that sometimes the parents themselves are the ones who cause the event, and even when they aren't the ones who hurt us, let's be honest: most of us didn't have parents who could give us the emotional support we needed, and so our instinct turns to survival, which means suppressing our feelings as a coping mechanism.
If you're not in love with yourself, you can't be in love with anything at all. There's nothing out there. It's all you! It's all reflections of us, and so when you fight something and resist it, what you're actually resisting is parts inside yourself, parts you probably haven't learned to know and accept yet. If you're in love with yourself, you'll accept the fact that everything that arrives in your life, and especially the things that don't sit well with you, are chances to learn, chances to clean up the parts of yourself you love less. Understand this: all the events, the people, the situations that happen to us, all of them carry important information that is meant to teach us to understand ourselves better and, above all, to love ourselves.
Your number one job is to take care of yourself. You are the most important person here. You are the only person who ever was and ever will be with you, who gets up with you every morning and goes to sleep with you. You are the only person who was there in every moment of your life, in the hard moment and in the happy one too.
It's your responsibility to take care of your own happiness and your own fulfillment. Nobody is going to save you, nobody can be there for you every moment. It's always you.
