Do Nothing: Break the Pattern | The Truth Hurts Ep. 95

The conversation

You have to get more done, even when you can barely stand up anymore. The way Gili sees it, that's not a strong work ethic. It's an automatic pattern running in the background, and you never notice you're repeating yourself at all. The fear of stopping is an ancient fear of shame, not a real choice you made. And the paradox is that the person who knows how not to react, and isn't frightened by the quiet, is the one who's really in control of their own life.

The truth

We keep coming back to the same problems because we act out of the same automatic patterns, without ever noticing that we are repeating ourselves.

Every action we take comes out of a particular belief system, which is why sometimes the fastest way to shut down a limiting belief is to do nothing at all.

Before the Industrial Revolution people worked according to need, not according to a clock. The Industrial Revolution is what created the link between how much you produce and how much you are worth.

The endless chase after getting things done is often a way to avoid a feeling of guilt or shame that was planted in us, not a real free choice.

Reacting emotionally to the things you don't want in your life invites more of those same things, and being passive can actually be the most active thing you do.

Conditional self-love (if I got things done then I'm worth something, and if I didn't then I'm not) is self-punishment in disguise, not real self-worth.

Questions and answers

Why do we keep coming back to the same problems in life?

We are stuck in a loop of doing the same thing over and over without being aware of it. We are so programmed and conditioned that we don't notice we are repeating the same actions, and that leads to the same problems in every area of life, in relationships, at work or in our health.

Why can doing nothing solve problems and change limiting beliefs?

Our actions come out of our limiting belief system. To shut down a belief like that, all you have to do is nothing, because even that is already a different action. When you sit and don't react, when you watch your thoughts and your feelings without moving, there's a power in that which changes things, instead of running on automatic.

How do we invite more of the things we don't want into our lives?

When we react emotionally to the things we don't like or don't want in our lives, we invite the universe to keep supplying us with more of those things. And the other way around: when you react only to the things you do want and do love, that is an invitation to the universe to supply more of those.

What is the critical stage in creating reality and in manifesting?

After you picture and feel the thing you are asking for as if it has already happened, the critical stage is to stop and not obsess over how and when it is going to happen. The actions will then be automatic and things will happen naturally and spontaneously, without depending on pressure or on trying to control the outcome.

Gili's original episode description

People don't understand that you can solve a lot of problems in life by doing nothing at all. The reason we find ourselves with the same problems over and over is that we're constantly stuck in a loop of doing the same thing, again and again. We're simply so programmed and conditioned that most people aren't even aware of it or thinking about it. They really don't notice that they're repeating themselves, the same actions, the same problems, and round it goes again. It can be in a relationship, at work, health problems or any other problem in life, and it's because we keep doing the same things and then get the same results. The best thing to do is to stop and do nothing.

Why do we do what we do? Because we believe it's the thing we're supposed to do. In other words, our belief system decides our actions. Put simply: every action you take comes out of your limiting belief system! So if you want to shut down a limiting belief, all you have to do is nothing! If only because doing nothing is already doing something different.

All of our lives are algorithms. If you react emotionally to the things you don't like or don't want in your life, you've just invited the universe to keep supplying you with more of those things. And the other way around: if you react only to the things you do love and do want in your life, that's an invitation to the universe to keep supplying you with more of them.

Sometimes the most powerful action is to do nothing. An active choice not to react can be stronger than any action. In our reality, the passive thing is actually the active one. Stop reacting to everything.