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Episode 45 · February 8, 2024
The Truth Hurts · Episode 45 · audio in Hebrew
The conversation
Gili and Dana open with something you wouldn't expect: they're both a little sick right now. From there they jump to a bigger question. Gili says your mood affects how you cope with illness, and the way she sees it, there's a difference between what you're worth at the level of the soul and what you're worth at the level of the market. The conversation then moves to a model Gili brings in the name of Tony Robbins. As she presents it, good times raise weak people, and hard times like the one we're in now are exactly what produce the strong people who will bring the next good times. They also touch, Gili says, on the power of the words we say about ourselves and on the two deepest fears she believes we all carry, and they end with her clear call: don't settle for a decision, choose one small thing and actually commit to it.
The truth
Your mood affects the way the body deals with illness, so there's no point in piling emotional suffering on top of physical suffering when you're sick.
At the level of the soul everyone is equal, but at the level of the market your worth is measured by what you have to give. Two levels that sit side by side without contradicting each other.
In the model Gili brings from Tony Robbins: good times raise weak people, weak people bring bad times, bad times forge strong people, and strong people rebuild good times. A cycle that keeps repeating itself.
The way Gili presents it, the words you choose about yourself don't only describe you, they actually turn you into what they say.
The two deepest fears all of us carry are "I'm not enough" and "I won't be loved." That feeling carries the weight of an emotional death, not just passing discomfort.
Gili says the satisfaction from a big success lasts anywhere from a few hours to 90 days, so the way she sees it, it's always better to keep moving forward than to rest on what you've achieved.
Questions and answers
Why shouldn't you "add suffering on top of suffering" when you're sick?
Because there's a fact on the ground: the body is dealing with an illness, or with a process of cleansing and transformation. That's a fact in itself. Feeling sorry about it and getting sad about it piles more suffering on top of a situation that already exists, instead of simply accepting the moment and keeping your energy high, which helps you get well.
What sets a person's worth at the level of the market?
How they feel, and what they have to give and to contribute to other people. The more a person invests in themselves, learns tools and methods and trains themselves to help others, the more their worth goes up, and that's why they can ask for more too.
What is the connection between the words we say about ourselves and who we become?
The moment you say about yourself, "I'm lazy," you're giving it weight, and you become exactly that. So it's worth turning it around and choosing beautiful, gentle words about yourself, because those are the ones that create the meaning that ends up setting off the emotion.
What are the two biggest fears people have, according to the episode?
The first fear is "I'm not enough": not pretty enough, not smart enough, not good enough, not rich enough. Out of that comes the second one, that if I'm not enough then I won't be the one who is loved, and that is experienced as a kind of psychological and emotional death, even if it isn't a physical one.
How long does the feeling of satisfaction last after a person gets something they badly wanted?
According to research mentioned in the episode, even someone who got exactly what they wanted and worked hard for it feels high satisfaction for only a short time: between six hours and six weeks, and at most 90 days.
What's the difference between a vacation and freedom?
A vacation sounds like no limits at all: the sea, a bikini, no obligations. Real freedom is exactly the opposite. It comes out of a specific commitment to one thing. That isn't a contradiction, that's the whole point.
Gili's original episode description
About the podcast
Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.
The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.
In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.
We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.
Is this podcast for you?
- You want to hear the truth, and you’re ready to face it. (Yes, those are two different things.)
- You want to gain insight and improve your quality of life.
- You want to make a change.
- You want a deeper understanding of the laws of the universe.
- You want to live a healthy life in body and soul.
- You want to take away something you can carry with you for life.
You don’t need any prior knowledge. You only need the desire to explore a wide range of ideas and discover practical guidance for living.
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