2023 In, 2024 Out: What Will You Stop? What Will You Start?

Episode 39 · December 28, 2023

Change, feeling stuck and procrastination

The Truth Hurts · Episode 39 · audio in Hebrew

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The conversation

You're on the doorstep of 40 and feeling that something has to change now, as if time has run out. Gili says this isn't only a subjective feeling. This is the age with the highest suicide rate, but also with the highest percentage of people who start running marathons, the same intensity going in two completely opposite directions. In psychology they call it the age of understanding, and the way she sees it, that is exactly the moment when your eyes open and you see life differently. What helps you get through it, she says, is not spending that power on worry but aiming it at believing and creating, and that starts with the way you talk to yourself in the morning.

The truth

  • Age 39 is described as "the last straight": the age with the highest suicide rate, but also with the highest percentage of people who start running marathons, the same energy going in two directions.

  • In psychology, 40 is considered "the age of understanding," and today the midlife crisis can arrive at 30 or at 50 as well.

  • A quotation from the book of Exodus about the children of Israel: only after 40 years in the desert do their eyes open to see and their ears open to hear.

  • 2023 is presented as "a year of 7" and 2024 as "a year of 8," a year of reversal according to the numerology Gili presents.

  • The first tip for the new year: the way you talk to yourself is critical, and how you start your morning decides your day.

  • A personal story: Gili's son, a soldier, has been in Ichilov hospital for more than a week, and even so she finds a parking space with complete confidence on every visit. A live demonstration of positive self-talk.

Questions and answers

Why is it right now, around 40, that I feel everything has to happen?

In psychology, 40 is considered "the age of understanding," and it's the age people talk about most in the context of the midlife crisis, even if in recent years that crisis has been moving around, arriving sometimes at 30 and sometimes at 50. Gili also brings a quotation from the book of Exodus about the children of Israel in the desert, whose eyes and ears only open after 40 years, and who only then understand the world.

I'm worried and tense about my age all the time, and I feel like I'm spending all my strength on it. How do I do something with it instead of just worrying?

Instead of spending energy on worry, which creates a negative reality, Gili suggests aiming it at believing, at creating, at loving, at growing and at shining, and also harnessing it to support physical recovery.

Gili's original episode description

In this episode Gili and Tal offer a meaningful transition and an opportunity for renewal and inspiration.

This time, a whole episode made up purely of Gili's famous tips corner.

Gili offers two essential lists: one of them is about what it's worth stopping, and the other is about what it's worth starting, to create a year that is nothing less than perfect. Through practical tips and smart guidance, Gili and Tal talk about how to let go of what no longer works for you and to embrace innovation, renewal and inspiration.

In this episode you'll find tools for building a plan of action for the new year. Gili and Tal invite you to join them and to start the new year on the right foot, full of optimism and ready to deal with whatever comes your way.

An episode full of new and inspiring ideas, and a perfect opportunity to stop, take stock and plan the next stage of your life journey.

About the podcast

Listening to The Truth Hurts feels like sitting in on a healing session.

The truth can hurt. It’s right there in the name. But we’re not here to cause pain. Quite the opposite.

In each episode, two women sit down for an honest conversation: an Emotional Healer and her client.

We talk about healing and consciousness, faith and science, the body and soul, personal growth, energy, and different approaches to healing. Above all, we face the truth no one says out loud: everything around us is upside down.

Is this podcast for you?

  • You want to hear the truth, and you’re ready to face it. (Yes, those are two different things.)
  • You want to gain insight and improve your quality of life.
  • You want to make a change.
  • You want a deeper understanding of the laws of the universe.
  • You want to live a healthy life in body and soul.
  • You want to take away something you can carry with you for life.

You don’t need any prior knowledge. You only need the desire to explore a wide range of ideas and discover practical guidance for living.

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Gili Man Wolner, Emotional Healer. Helping you heal and grow through Jewish wisdom.

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