The Truth Hurts Podcast: Page 10
Some years just flow, and some years feel like a constant struggle without your understanding why. According to Gili, every year has its own energy, exactly the way the chakras in the body do, and you can work out exactly which year you're in from your birthday and the current year. Once you know the number, you can stop fighting and start flowing with whatever the year brings, even if its subject wasn't your choice. The way Gili sees it, even when it feels like you chose it yourself, the subject is fixed and known in advance. Most people simply aren't aware of it.
Read the episode notes: What Does Your Personal Year Mean? Kabbalistic Numerology, Part 3
You have a whole inner world that nobody really gets into, even when you're surrounded by people, even inside a relationship. Or maybe you learned back in childhood that you're loved when you're the good girl, and ever since then you give up what you really want so you'll feel accepted. The way Gili Man Wolner sees it, that's no accident: the birthday is the light you were given as a gift, and the month you were born in is the weight that comes with it and casts doubt on it, until you choose to work on it willingly, or life makes sure it comes through a crisis.
Read the episode notes: What Your Birth Month Can Tell You: Kabbalistic Numerology, Part 2 | The Truth Hurts, Episode 19
Your birth date is fixed and can't be changed, but the way Gili Man Wolner sees it, far more is hidden inside it than it seems: the difficulties that will follow you, the repairs you came here to make, and even the general melody of your life. The birthday itself is the gift you received from the Creator, and everyone has to find it and pass it on, while the month you were born in is a kind of covering that makes it harder to bring that gift out. It's worth remembering: numerology is a tool for diagnosis and not for treatment. It helps you understand where you are. It doesn't solve it for you.
Read the episode notes: Your Day-of-Birth Number: Numerology, Part 1 | Episode 18
There's one question that's hard to get away from: what are you really avoiding in life? Almost every time, the answer comes back to your parents, sometimes by way of a promise you made yourself not to be like them, and without noticing you became another version of the same thing. Gili says we're certain we're way past the previous generation, and in reality we're stuck on exactly the same issues, except that nobody stops to ask where it leads. It all starts before we understood anything: the need to be loved collides with the need to be ourselves from the very first moment.
Read the episode notes: Authenticity or Belonging? | The Truth Hurts, Episode 17
You act out of habit, out of an old pattern that doesn't really serve you anymore, and only afterward do you notice that's what happened. Gili distinguishes between action that comes out of memory and constraints from the past, and action that comes out of real inspiration and is open to new things. The way she sees it, a broken heart is an inner clearing process that leads to insight, not a sign that something has ended, and that's also where the name The Truth Hurts comes from. Toward the end she gives a few practical tools: how to judge people favorably, how to stay out of gossip, and how to give other people exactly what you're missing yourself.
Read the episode notes: Use Your Influence for Good | The Truth Hurts, Episode 16
How many times have you blamed your parents, your teachers, the government, and still nothing really changed? Gili Man Wolner has a different approach: what you see outside is a reflection of what's happening inside, like a crystal stone that shows a different color from every angle you look at it. That means the clearing you have to do is always directed at yourself, even when it seems like the problem belongs to somebody else. And when things are hard, that isn't a punishment, it's an opportunity for repair.
Read the episode notes: The Crystal Eye: Change Begins Within | The Truth Hurts, Episode 15
If someone ever told you that you can't start working on yourself because you don't have faith, that's simply not true. You already trust basic things every day without noticing: that the traffic light will work, that your paycheck will land in your account. Gili explains that faith (*emunah*) isn't a trait you either have or don't have; it's a muscle you have to train. You can be completely far from religious law and still feel closer to the spirit of the Jewish message than someone who keeps the commandments without understanding why.
Read the episode notes: Where Do You Place Your Faith? | The Truth Hurts, Episode 14
Somebody else makes you angry, hurts you, or just sets you off, and it's easy to stay right there with the feeling that the problem is theirs. Gili has a different angle: every moment like that, from the smallest flash of irritation to real anger, is a mirror reflecting back what's sitting inside you, and you don't have to open up your whole psychological history to fix it. The way she sees it, you have no control over what happens or over your first instinctive reaction, but you have complete choice over what happens inside you afterward, and that's exactly where the game begins.
Read the episode notes: Prepare Your Soul for Summer | Episode 13
If something you read or heard lately really set you off, it probably touched something real. Indifference, not anger, is the sign that something isn't really connected to you, the way Gili puts it. She also has a practical tip for the moment before you fall asleep: what you feed your brain in those minutes decides how you'll wake up in the morning. And before you hit play on a meditation you found online, it's worth checking who's behind it, because you end up absorbing the energy of the person delivering it, not only the words.
Read the episode notes: Do Our Thoughts Really Create Reality? | The Truth Hurts, Episode 12
You don't really choose every thought that runs through your head. Somewhere between 60,000 and 70,000 thoughts pass through us in a single day, and from what Gili lays out here, most of them aren't ours. They're an old memory trying to come back, or worry about something that hasn't happened yet. Who is running that thought, and how do you know whether it belongs to you? The question gets both a scientific backdrop here and an explanation from the Hasidic world. And at least one of them offers a practical answer: stop stating facts and start asking questions.
Read the episode notes: Thought Creates Reality | The Truth Hurts, Episode 11