The Truth Hurts Podcast: Page 7
You're waiting for it to feel right to start, and meanwhile nothing moves. You worry more than you need to, you take what other people say to heart, and more and more books pile up on the shelf without changing anything. The way Gili sees it, change comes from action and from self-discipline, not from waiting for the right moment, and the way we talk about ourselves locks our reality in place far more than we realize.
Read the episode notes: Choosing Joy When Life Hurts | The Truth Hurts, Episode 50
Someone hurt you, and you're a hundred percent sure you're in the right. So why doesn't that help you feel free? The anger stays stuck, and sometimes it doesn't stay only in your head. Gili says it finds a way into the body too. When justice and unity collide, unity is the choice that's worth more.
Read the episode notes: "Justice, Justice Shall You Pursue." Really? | The Truth Hurts, Episode 49
You know exactly what needs to be done. The list is clear, maybe even written down somewhere, and still nothing moves. Gili Man Wolner says this isn't laziness and it isn't a lack of knowledge, it's fear, sitting much deeper than it seems. Underneath the fear is an old thought that repeated itself so many times it turned into a belief, and that belief is what's actually deciding for you.
Read the episode notes: When Definitions Become Limits | The Truth Hurts, Episode 48
You know exactly how it goes. The same thought comes back, the same loop, and you can't get out of it no matter how hard you try. Gili says the problem isn't you, it's the question you're asking yourself. "Why do I never succeed?" pulls an automatic negative answer out of the brain, while a completely different question opens up somewhere else entirely. You can also move your focus on purpose: remember a moment when you were proud of yourself, and feel again what that was like in your body and on your face. And there's one small word worth watching out for: "my," as in "my fear," which turns a temporary pattern into a permanent identity.
Read the episode notes: The Power of Better Questions | The Truth Hurts, Episode 47
There's one nagging thought that keeps coming back, and it feels like it's simply the truth. Gili Man Wolner says that stress is anger plus fear, and that both of them weaken the moment you choose to focus on something else. She offers an exercise, three simple questions for testing a thought like that, and along with it a short morning practice of gratitude and picturing what you want. The way she sees it, you don't think your way out of being stuck, you move your way out, even without full confidence, and even when it seems like you don't have much to give.
Read the episode notes: Your Focus Shapes Your Life | The Truth Hurts, Episode 46
Gili and Dana open with something you wouldn't expect: they're both a little sick right now. From there they jump to a bigger question. Gili says your mood affects how you cope with illness, and the way she sees it, there's a difference between what you're worth at the level of the soul and what you're worth at the level of the market. The conversation then moves to a model Gili brings in the name of Tony Robbins. As she presents it, good times raise weak people, and hard times like the one we're in now are exactly what produce the strong people who will bring the next good times. They also touch, Gili says, on the power of the words we say about ourselves and on the two deepest fears she believes we all carry, and they end with her clear call: don't settle for a decision, choose one small thing and actually commit to it.
Read the episode notes: Recharge Your Energy | The Truth Hurts, Episode 45
You feel like everything around you is changing faster than you can take in: at work, with money, in the world at large. Even if you stand still, the way Gili Man Wolner sees it, you're moving backward, because everyone else keeps going forward. She explains that every big change moves through the same stages: shock, anger, sadness, bargaining and acceptance, and anyone who doesn't recognize that can stay stuck in anger or in depression for years. The way out starts with seeing the situation exactly as it is, and not worse than it really is.
Read the episode notes: The Power of Inner Energy | The Truth Hurts, Episode 44
There are moments when you feel you're simply not ready, and you still have to show up, decide, keep moving. Gili knows that feeling well too. The gap doesn't close with more effort. It closes with faith (*emunah*). The more of it there is, the less you need to push and strain. A lot of the beliefs running our lives today, she says, were picked up back in childhood, and they're still writing our reality now. Sometimes all it takes is to stop and ask what exactly they're costing us.
Read the episode notes: Faith Beyond Religion | The Truth Hurts, Episode 43
You declare war on the extra pound, on the glass of Coke, on the neighbor who gets on your nerves, and you find that it only gets stronger. That's no accident. The way Gili sees it, the moment you define something as an enemy you're in a battle with it, and you get exactly what you focused on: another war. Even the declared war on drugs and alcohol has only grown, with billions of dollars poured into it, because even negative attention feeds the very thing it's fighting. The question that stays with you is where you're still choosing to resist at home instead of letting go.
Read the episode notes: War, Justice, and Why Unity Comes First | Episode 42
You wake up in the morning and something in you has already given up, before the day has even started. The way Gili sees it, there's a difference between anger and guilt. Anger is there to protect your boundaries. Guilt holds you back from the inside and leaves you stuck between "I'm the victim" and "I'm the one to blame," until it wears you out, and she says it can turn into illness and wreck relationships too. She's honest about one more thing: the way she sees it, we all kind of like picking at the wound, even when it hurts. Gili suggests a simple exercise. Stop before you react, and keep asking what is actually making you angry, because usually the thing that irritates you out there is a smudge on your own face.
Read the episode notes: Meet Gili and Tal: How The Truth Hurts Began | Episode 41